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A few months back, my marriage took a terminal down-hill path. It was messy, heart-wrenching and absolutely traumatic. Right now, I still find myself hurting whenever I am reminded of the chain of events that lead to what happened. Even after my husband came back home after leaving us for almost two months, when I saw those damn pictures of that girl - her pictures in my husband’s phone with them side by side in something that looked like this…

it’s as if my heart is being stabbed. It is too painful that it translates to a physical pain.

I am a very possessive and jealous person. On the otherhand, let me identify and justify the reasons for my seemingly blown out proportion jealousy and anger towards this girl:

1. She is married with one child, who as of this writing is not even one year old.  With her being married, you’d think that she is sensible enough to think about how her “close” male friend’s wife’s possible reactions with her text messages. I’m not paranoid, but these are just some of the examples of her text messages:   (a.) “Kumain ka na?” (Did you already eat?) (b.) “Bahay ka na ba?” (Are you already at home?) – I mean why the need for a status report? Are you his wife? (c.) text messages that doesn’t seem to be of life and death importance (translation: absolutely trivial and to some extent flirty or trying to be cute) sent during the wee hours of the morning or late in the evening. Read more…

Back in the early to mid 90′s, the “in” thing in terms of communication gadgets are pagers. But then again, prior to the time it became affordable to ordinary people, the said service is mostly used only by doctors due to the urgency of their jobs. Then, of course, more and more people decided they want to have one as well and so more companies started to offer the service, as such, the rates became more affordable enabling more common people to take advantage of it as well.

In the late 90′s to the early 2000′s the pager became completely forgotten with the advent of text messaging. Text messaging became a massive thing that it completely obliterated the pagers. For one, you no longer have to relay your message to an operator, thereby, taking away any censorship or inhibitions (of course depending on your comfort level with the person you are sending a text message to.). Although, in some cases it may be a good effect, but then again there are still disadvantages. Ergo, as we go through the disadvantages of text messaging, let us also go through some points I’d call Text Messaging Ethics. Read more…

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Some are insisting that money is a requirement in order to have an affair. Well, I say, not in all cases. There is such a thing as an emotional affair just in case you are not aware. An emotional affair initially starts as an innocent friendship. A little chit chat here and there that could later on result to an exchange of pro-longed emails or text messages. This kind of an affair does not have physical intimacy in the equation, thereby and somehow, taking out the money in the equation as well. Of course, when you want to meet in some clandestine location to do the deed, in cases of affairs involving physical intimacy, you obviously need money for that. The absence of physical intimacy, somehow equates to eliminating the money part as well.

When you are investing in more time and emotional energy that could later on form a strong emotional bond with someone else aside from your spouse, it would no doubt hurt the intimacy that you should be sharing only with your spouse. Read more…